Are you local to any other member? I am sure someone wouldn't mind a personal chat over a beer to discuss your issues.
Don't give up
Sounds like you could use a mentor. Check about the forum to find a member in your area. Invite him/her over on a scheduled brew day and see if your "normal" way of doing things aligns with "normal'. A second set of eyes can do wonders in ironing out problems.
These are good suggestions!