"There seem to be so many conflicting opinions about whether sitting on the trub is bad and whether secondary fermentation is good or bad."
You're right there! Sorry I gave such conflicting information. This is kind of the problem with the internet; there are many opinions, all of which can be correct, depending on your setup, what you brew, how bothered you are, why you're brewing etc etc.
I definitely agree that you don't want to leave beer on the yeast too long. The question is how long is too long? For a home brewer, I personally don't think 4 weeks is outrageous, unless you're sitting at like 25C or something. As home brewers, on a standard 5 gallon system, we don't have the hydrostatic pressure on the yeast that commercial breweries do, because of the volume so the yeast isn't as prone to autolysis. I believe that's where the "must get it off the trub asap" thing came about. That's my take on it, anyway.
What I do when bottling:
I have a bottling bucket, which is just a fermenting bucket with a tap & little bottler attached. I mix up a sugar solution according to a priming calculator, boiled for 15 minutes to sanitise it. I cool it and carefully pour the it into the bottom of the bottling bucket. Then it's just a case of carefully siphoning your beer from the FV into the bottling bucket, making sure it doesn't all splash about. This will mostly mix the beer in with the priming solution. I usually give it a very gentle stir with a sanitised spoon to make sure it's mixed properly. Then fill up your sanitised bottles :thumb:
Again, that's only what I do, but it's simple and works well.