Grrr.

[Gayle]

OH and I had a babysitter for our LO's on Saturday night, so we'd planned to watch DVDs with a friend and have a lazy Sunday. Instead, some more friends turned up with booze, partied all night in our house, someone urinated on our sofa and didn't tell us - just turned the cushion over (we found out when a friend burst out laughing coz he'd remembered), and then stayed all day expecting to be fed the big sunday fry we normally have and drank lots of homebrew. :evil: :evil:

My stash has been decimated, people just helped themselves. I know I'm rather free and easy with it when it comes to sharing with friends but it's not a free-for-all all the time, it might be cheap to make but it's not free to make and I'm trying to keep some for Christmas too. It's not like we'd planned to be drinking or having drunk people round. I lifted over 30 empty homebrew bottles and filled a large binbag with other beer bottles and cans (OH and I only had a couple each.) I had the whole mess to clean up myself before the kids got home, and now have to figure out how to wash the cushions of my corner sofa, the smell is so bad I want to cry.

Do you let friends just help themselves to homebrew? I was always taught it's rude to deny a guest in your house something they could reasonably have, so it's hard to say No when they return from the shed with an armful yet again, but my stash won't last long at this rate and nor will my sanity when it's the homebrew that gets the blame for my sofa being unusable right now.

 

[Wendy1971]

Thats why we dont have partys anymore !!!!

 

[Crastney]

as host it is your responsibilty to ensure that people don't have empty glasses - but that is based on the assumption that when you go to other people they do the same, and that it's not always you hosting all the time.

however, it's a bit unfair of people just to help themselves to your wine, especially if it's stored elsewhere. I hope they had really had hangovers and felt very ill (not beacuse your brew is bad, but because they drank far too much).

next time they come round, tell them that you don't have any homebrew left, as they drank it all last time.
or just don't invite them around again.

I was similarly annoyed once, when a friend was round at ours, and I decided that we could drink some whisky - I'd got a nice bottle of Highland Park, so we had some of that, I thought the night was nearly over, but we kept on drinking for another two hours, and the whisky was finished off! I don't believe they fully appreciated it, the amount that they'd already drunk, and it was expensive stuff - I wish I hadn't said that I'd got it, but as host I felt obliged to offer the best that I'd got.

Another friend had a party, the first half of which she wasn't actually at, and when she arrived she was mortified to find that people had drunk her really expensive champagne that was in her fridge. The same fridge that she'd given instructions for people to put wine in when they arrived, and to help themselves from for drinks. Someone obviously didn't realise how good this other stuff was, and opened it. We have fewer parties there now, and it's a slighltly more select crowd.

 

[calumscott]

I'd be reassessing membership of my circle of friends after that...

 

[beermaker]

sounds like they took one hell of a liberty with your hospitality, I'm with the comments above on reassessing the people you allow over your threshold! Any chance of finding who it was who was indiscrete on your sofa and then invoice them for the cleaning bill? I heard something about bicarbonate of soda being good, although when our dog pee'd on the sofa in our motorhome I used a vax carpet washer to give it a clean and then left it to air and it turned out ok.

Hope you get sorted out soon
Phil

 

[BerkshireBadger]

A mix of vinegar and salt in warm water is good for sponging urine out of sofa cushions and it gets rid of the smell. Just don't use malt vinegar - or you'll be looking for the hidden fish n chips for weeks!

 

[graysalchemy]

I would put bottles of vinegar and salt water in the shed or perhaps even urine. They might get the message then.

I think they were taking the P*ss personally and I would have turfed them out.

 

[PD]

I totally agree with GA, there is a level of hospitality we try to reach but also there's a level of good manners your guests should try and reach.
I recently held a party for my wife's 60. I was expecting a lot of home brew to be drunk and had planned and made it available. It was out on display in cool boxes. At least what I thought they would all manage to drink. However it went down well, that was no problem I fetched more out of the garage stocks.
If I hadn't my friends would have gone onto coffee's or whatever they had brought to the party ( I was left with 2 cases of Carlsberg and a Stella.... :sick: )
Many went into the garage to view the brewery and stock, nobody attempted to take any ( I just mentioned most of it was not ready...a tiny white lie )
I know if I visit my friends it will be reciprocated on both sides.
And nobody peed'd on the sofa ! several helped to collect empty bottles, washing up was shared out and general tidying up done from the food table was done as we went along. Great party happy to hold another. Everyone went home wobbly and happy nobody was blind drunk and the party lasted from 1930 hours till 0200 and all remained friends...

 

[calumscott]

Sounds like the way we roll PD.

We left the getting smashed and making a d*ck of onesself behind a very long time ago...

 

[Baldbrewer]

Really? Ewwwww :sick: and these are friends?

Go round his home and piss through his letterbox see how funny it is then!

What a grrrrrrrrr.........

Feel for you mate but seriously tell him to jog on.

 

[PD]

erm......... I think Gayle may have difficulty p*****g through their letterbox.....

 

[Baldbrewer]

Oops! could always use a shewee! See how mad I was reading that post! Lol!

Can't believe anybody could be so rude as to do that :nono:

 

[Wendy1971]

:rofl: @ BB

 

[alanywiseman.]

This is shocking!!! I would be fuming and senting the bill (and by sending I mean delvering by hand and taking cash on the spot) It is not on.

I dont like to mince my words. I will make a select HB avalable to certain guests. If any one is getting too drunk and not heading any warning i happy kick them out. I will not allow one piss head to ruin the night for everone else. The key is to do it quietly and subtly so other can continue to have fun.

If it reaches my bed time though I turn into the grumpest landlord but generally that is not till about 4-5am

 

[graysalchemy]

The last time someone p*ssed on my couch at a party was at my sons 3rd birthday party :lol: :lol:

 

[Wendy1971]

:rofl: :thumb:

 

[beermaker]

moisture sensors in the cusions with a klaxon and flashing beacon above each seat!!

 

[Baz Chaz]

Thats why we're very careful about who we invite round, a quantity of my best single malt was wasted on the wasted on one occasion, followed by an even more expensive bottle of port that had been set aside, some bstard drained it, hope the dregs gave em the wildies :evil:

The last time someone p*ssed on my couch at a party was at my sons 3rd birthday party :lol: :lol:

Yes ..... but you were very drunk at the time :rofl:

 

[graysalchemy]

Thats why we're very careful about who we invite round, a quantity of my best single malt was wasted on the wasted on one occasion followed by an even more expensive bottle of port that had baan set aside :evil:

The last time someone p*ssed on my couch at a party was at my sons 3rd birthday party :lol: :lol:

Yes ..... but you were very drunk at the time :rofl:

:rofl: :rofl:

 

[Frogfurlong]

That is just disgraceful and your so-called friends should be grovelling at your door for forgiveness.

Present them with the bill for:

a) cleaning
b) brewing ingredients
c) Hourly rate for both services

Even if they don't pay it may make them think.