Hi Terrym,
You have missed nothing, you are quite correct.
If the two faces are as you say " two flat equidistant mating surfaces", you wouldn't need a gasket. But a softer gasket will take up the differences between the two. The trick is getting the two surfaces to as close as possible "equidistant" so that the gasket can seal the two faces. I have been working on that with little success.
The theory is that, if you tighten the lid more then the gasket will be compressed enough to close the gaps.
When I tighten my cap up, it jumps the threads, simply poor quality. Hence the idea to tighten up the threads with saw cuts and binding the cap with lock wire to stop this happening.
As an engineer, I'm used to pneumatics at 100psi and hydraulics at way higher pressures yet this crap can't keep 10 psi in!!!
But I'm still thinking I shouldn't have to go to these lengths with a new product. It will cost me £30 to get the caps back to original to return them to the shop, and that's if the shop owner will take them back as I have been sanding the lips.
Might just end up binning then and buying a Corny system, but a lot of cash wasted!
Not quite sure what road to head down considering hassle factor and expense.
Pete