being a dad is hard work :(

[sam.k]

My darling toddler has taken to screaming at bed time, at first we thought she was poorly as she has always been good as gold at bed time, then we wondered if something had scared her.
now im pretty sure shes doing it for attention, it sounds cruel but ive just let her pound her door screaming for about half an hour, she finally decided to get into bed and has dropped off.
I feel well mean but I know that each time I go in to settle her down I am just compounding bad behaviour...

doesn't stop me feeling bad though, its put me right off my ale.

im pretty sure they should give new dads a leaflet out lining the fact that they must become waterproof, a bank teller, emotionless/emotional, saintly horsy teddy-bears when you go to take your new sprog home, its to much like hard work this fatherhood thing.

anyway I have to go, I need to wash some crayon off the TV.

 

[PD]

Ha ! you got a lot more grief to come yet.........

we use to put daughter in her pram and leave her at top of garden screaming.... ( good for the lungs and heart ! )

Obviously thats only appropriate for daylight hours !.... :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

 

[dennisking]

..............and then they become teenagers.

 

[PD]

have you ever seen the character KEVIN by harry enfield..... boy or girl it happens at the stroke of midnight on their 13th birthday

 

[Grumpy Jack]

She is already winning! You've gone off your beer... my father reliably informs me that the first 41 years are the worst period of parenthood and he hopes it will get better from now on. If he's right, I'd better give up now as 11 years seems pretty horrendous.

 

[graysalchemy]

They become tweenies first. :twisted: or little shites as I prefer. :lol: :lol:

 

[iceo]

i can feel for you. my son is 3 but has problems,he is going though the terrible 2/3's and with having a 11 week old in the house it sounds bad but its nice and quite when hes got to bed. dont get me wrong i wouldnt change him for the world but if hes in one of them moods i wish i had a shed to hide in :whistle:

 

[PD]

better off having a couple of gerbils....

 

[sam.k]

I'm glad that you all are so moved by my plight :) b@stards

I do have a shed however.....

No it would cost a fortune to heat it and then I would have nowhere to brew lager.

 

[PD]

Ha ! sorry I didn't realise you wanted sympathy............ :lol: :lol:

er no.....sorry cant oblige....you had your one night of fun now its paytime.....for at least 18 yrs..... and beyond......... :party: :party:

 

[dennisking]

I'm glad that you all are so moved by my plight :) b@stards

Been there, got the t-shirt, and the grey hairs, and the decreased bank account, and the bags under the eyes from lack of sleep. And now it's the grand-kids.

 

[sam.k]

Ha ! sorry I didn't realise you wanted sympathy............ :lol: :lol:

er no.....sorry cant oblige....you had your one night of fun now its paytime.....for at least 18 yrs..... and beyond......... :party: :party:

haha, that's funny, I thought I started paying when I married her (well technically ive been paying before that aswell)

how did you know it was one night of fun? has she been telling again!

 

[iceo]

Ha ! sorry I didn't realise you wanted sympathy............ :lol: :lol:

er no.....sorry cant oblige....you had your one night of fun now its paytime.....for at least 18 yrs..... and beyond......... :party: :party:

haha, that's funny, I thought I started paying when I married her (well technically ive been paying before that aswell)

how did you know it was one night of fun? has she been telling again!

well done if it only took one night :rofl:

we were trying for 8 months . trying for a baby is not as much fun as you think it could be :hmm: :whistle: :wha:

 

[calumscott]

I can, and now will, offer spadefuls of sympathy and empathy to boot.

That night time nightmare is a bugger to crack but (if the way we did it was right) you're doing the first bit right. Let them cry, they'll wear themselves out.

The trick now is to deploy what the psychobabble merchants call positive reinforcement. Go back over the screaming and shouting in a calm time, make your little one realise there is another way that means that she, and you, remain happy and calm and the best of friends and when that happens, other good things happen too.

The last thing I used to say to mine at night was a "...and there won't be any of that silly screaming and shouting tonight will there?!", just as a final reminder as I left the room. From there just a shout back in of "Be quiet like the good girl you're supposed to be" became enough after a week or so.

It's plain sailing once you crack it...

 

[PD]

yes Calum.......

 

[Buster]

As some old fart once said......

" When their baby,s their arm acheing..... When their older their heart acheing "

Never a truer word said. :)

 

[chrig]

I once counted how many times I put my 4year old back in her top bunk one night, we got to 90 times with non stop screaming until she gave up.

I was dropped in at the deep end with 5-9 year old step kids, then had some little ones later on... Enjoy :lol:

 

[PD]

5 x 9 yr olds ???

Someone had a busy year.......

 

[Cononthebarber]

You think you have it bad!? A while ago my cat decided to have a massive stinking sh*te and then throw it out of the litter tray, and then proceeded to walk around the house with crap on his paws and ass!!!

 

[calumscott]

yes Calum.......

Enough, you! It works and I have the proof!!!

...SWMBO is snoring like a good un and didn't complain at all about being sent to bed at seven...